Look in the mirror.. what do you see?

I understand that people want to be better accepted and what not.. but why lie about yourself in order to gain that acceptance? It's just going to hurt all the more when people find out that you're not honest and decide to drop you anyway. A for instance.. if you're on a dating site and it asks your body type, and you're 5'6" and weigh over 250lbs.. don't put down that you're body type is "average" or "need to lose a few pounds" be honest and select the "BBW/BHM/More to love" option. You could get someone interesting who wants to meet you.. and you're going to be even more paranoid what they think because you know that you've lied and they're expecting something totally different. The person you're meeting will probably be shocked and may even be uncomfortable because you're not what they're expecting. They're expecting someone average with one chin and you walk in with double or triple chins.. what are they supposed to think?

I'm not bashing on fat people. I myself am a fat person... however when I'm on a site that asks my body type I always select the BBW/More to love option. The way I figure it, if someone is not interested in big girls I don't want to waste their time or my time. I don't want to start talking to someone and get interested in meeting them.. only to have them be shocked/disappointed when we meet because they were expecting something different. Maybe I'm strange.. but I don't see the point in denying that I'm fat, it's what I am.

'Course.. there are some VERY beautiful women and handsome men out there who are obese.. but that's all in the eye of the beholder. Don't base the way you see yourself off someone Else's view. You have to be comfortable in your own skin... much easier said than done, trust me.. I know. Here's the thing though.. if you go through life thinking that you're unworthy or ugly.. that's how people are going to see you. The projected lack of self esteem shows in the way you move, talk, socialize, etc. If you don't like something about yourself.. change it, or learn to accept it.. but don't do it for everyone else, do it for yourself.

This part is where I go off about the skinny chicks who think they are fat. I know a lot of women who are 5'6" and above that weigh maybe 140lbs soaking wet and they go on to ME about how fat they are. I try not to laugh, because I know that some of them are serious about it.. they've got an eating disorder and poor body image which makes them think they are fat when in reality they are not. It's a damn shame, because these women are beautiful inside and out.. but they can't see it because their own perception of themselves and the eating disorder have clouded their vision. There are some women however that will say they are fat because they want validation from people that they aren't. "Oh my god.. I'm SOOO fat" - Skinny Chick "No you're not!" - Validation person "Yes I am! Look at these love handles" - Skinny Chick while pinching their non-existent fat roll "No way, you're beautiful! You're not fat, if anything you're skinny" - Validation person. I hate when people do that.

Self esteem and good body image are a hard thing to get.. and even harder to keep. There are people out there who have little self esteem and a poor body image who try to bring other people down with them. It's a shame really.

Rambling again.. I'll stop for now, but in short.. people need to stop worrying about what other people think and start worrying more about what they think.. and they need to quit trying to fit in the one size fits all accepted by everyone box. Be yourself.. love yourself! I know it's hard to do.. I'm working on it myself.. but it IS possible!